G-API: Kernel package design (#13851)

* Remove cv::unite_policy from API

* Add check that all id in kernel package are unique

* Refactor checker id procedure

* Remove cv::gapi::GLookupOrder from API

* Implement cv::gapi::use_only

* Fix samples

* Fix docs

* Fix comments to review

* Remove unite_policy

* Fix GKernelPackage::backends()

* Fix comments to review

* Fix all_unique

* Fix comments to review

* Fix comments to review

* Remove out of date tests