Add signaler_sndbuf_size option to config.hpp which allows the user to
increase the size of the send buffer used by the signalling socketpair.

Implement random backoff for reconnection attempts using a primitive
pseudo-random generation to prevent reconnection storms.

Add wait_before_connect option to config.hpp to allow the user to enable
random delay even on initial connect. Default is false for low latency.
Signed-off-by: Martin Lucina <mato@kotelna.sk>