If the socketpair used by signaler_t fills up, this can lead to deadlock.
This patch provides partial resolution by attempting to resize SO_SNDBUF on
the writer side, and if that fails we shall at least assert rather than
hang.

I've also refactored the signaler_t code to make the platform-dependent
parts clearer and have tested both the MSG_DONTWAIT and standard POSIX path
in recv.

The Win32 implementation currently does not implement resizing as I'm not
convinced that it's safe, but it will also assert like other platforms if
signaler_t::send() cannot succeed.

The OpenVMS implementation has been carried forward but is untested.
Signed-off-by: Martin Lucina <mato@kotelna.sk>