Revamp concurrency model, part 1:  EventLoop no longer allows cross-thread event queuing, simplifying many things.  Capability clients are no longer thread-safe, so they don't have to be so const.  In the future, explicit ways to communicate between threads will be re-added, but threads will be treated more like separate vats that just happen to have a particularly fat pipe.  Upcoming:  Remove mutexes.

Spin off libraries kj-async and capnp-rpc, so that people who don't want them can avoid their large footprint.