Extend totalSizeInWords() to also return a count of capabilities, which helps when a separate capability table needs to be allocated as well.  Use this in the RPC system.

Revamp generated interface to Object fields.  Now there is an ObjectPointer::{Reader,Builder}.  This will simplify the dynamic API (next change) and also makes it easier to delegate decisions about the object type to a function that doesn't know about the context where the object lives (i.e. by passing an ObjectPointer::Builder).

Disable use of unit analysis (via kj::Quantity) by default (since it has some overhead), but enable it specifically for dev builds.